The 7 Pillars of Regulation That Shifted Me From Guilt & Shame to Self Compassion
You don’t need more discipline strategies.
You need your nervous system on your side.
Inside Calm at the Core, we focus on:
• Recognising your stress patterns before they escalate
• Building real-time co-regulation tools
• Creating space between trigger and response
• Rewiring reactive defaults at the root
This is for parents & caregivers who are done snapping, shutting down, or carrying guilt after hard moments.
8 Weeks of 1:1 Email Support
Lifetime Access to the Course
You know what to do.
You’ve read the posts.
Saved the reels.
Listened to the gentle parenting podcasts.
You’ve whispered “stay calm” under your breath while clenching your jaw.
And later you sit there thinking:
Why can’t I just stay calm?
If that question has lived in your chest more than once…
You are not broken.
You are overwhelmed.
It’s 7:52am.
You’re already running late.
Your toddler suddenly needs the toilet -
even though they said no three minutes ago.
The baby is crying in the car seat you just buckled.
Your shoulders tighten.
Your breath shortens.
Your voice sharpens.
Then you snap.
And the guilt is instant.
Not because you don’t love them.
Because your nervous system flipped into survival.
Or perhaps it’s 3:17pm.
The room is louder than it should be.
A child is crying because they don’t want to pack up.
Someone else is shouting about a book that got wet.
You feel it rise in your chest.
You raise your voice.
A parent walks in.
And immediately you wish you hadn’t.
You are the calm one for everyone else.
But inside?
You’re holding it together by a thread.
You Don’t Need Better Coping Skills
You need to feel safer in your body.
You don’t have an anger problem.
You have a nervous system that doesn’t recognise safety in high-demand moments.
And safety can be trained.
Calm Is Not a Personality Trait
It’s a Trainable State.
Fight.
Flight.
Freeze.
Fawn.
These are survival responses - not character flaws.
Noise.
Demands.
Lack of sleep.
Big emotions.
Expectations.
Your nervous system doesn’t care that you “know better.”
It cares whether it feels safe.
When safety increases, reactions soften.
Why I Created This
Eight years ago I burned out so badly I lost my teacher registration. Not because I didn’t care.
Because I didn’t know how to regulate.
Years later, I was holding my newborn trying to get my almost-two-year-old to sleep.
He wasn’t listening. I was exhausted. I kept yelling.
He slapped my face.
And that was the moment I realised:
If I can’t regulate as an early childhood teacher…
What am I modelling at home?
I was about to open an eco play library filled with beautiful natural resources.
And I had to face something uncomfortable:
If I can’t regulate myself, what’s the point of nice eco learning toys?
Conscious environments mean nothing
if the nervous system inside them is dysregulated.
So I stopped trying to build better spaces.
And started building safety in my body instead.
Regulation is not optional leadership.
It’s foundational.
What Calm at the Core Is
An 8-week nervous system reset for parents and early childhood educators who want to:
• Respond instead of react
• Set boundaries without guilt
• Stay steady during big emotions
• Recover faster after stress
• Model regulation instead of apologising for dysregulation
This is not about being perfect.
It’s about building pause into your body.
How it Works
8 Modules
1:1 Email Support for 8 Weeks
Each module will help you to understand how stress moves through your body... and how to return to safety in real time.
Trauma-informed.
Somatic.
Practical.
Embodied first.
One 10-Minute Daily Grounding Practice
You receive one body-based regulation practice.
It stays the same for all 8 sessions.
Because repetition rewires.
When your body practices the same safe pattern daily, steadiness becomes familiar.
No overwhelm.
No falling behind.
Just practice.
Use it:
Before school pick-up
On your break
In the car
On the floor with your baby
The Journey Through 7 Pillars of Regulation
Introduction & Intention Setting
Before we begin, we pause. This session you'll set a clear intention for your journey and create the inner conditions for something to genuinely shift.
♥️ Module 1 - Physical | Root Chakra
Your nervous system is not just an energetic concept, it lives in your body. This session we build the physical foundation of regulation through nourishment, movement, sleep, and hydration, so your body learns it is safe to settle.
🧡 Module 2 - Emotional | Sacral Chakra
You cannot regulate what you refuse to feel. This session we make space for your emotions, learn to name them, and begin to respond consciously rather than react on autopilot.
💛 Module 3 - Identity | Solar Plexus Chakra
Who you believe you are shapes everything. This session we examine your current self concept, release the identity of the parent or teacher who is just surviving, and begin to embody the calm, grounded version of you that already exists within.
💚 Module 4 - Social | Heart Chakra
Energy is contagious, and your nervous system knows it. This session we look honestly at your relationships and assess who in your life is contributing to your regulation, and who is quietly pulling you out of it.
🩵 Module 5 - Environmental | Throat Chakra
Your external world is a direct reflection of your internal state. This session we clear what is no longer serving you, in your home, your workspace, your routines, and create an environment that supports your calm rather than stealing it.
💙 Module 6 - Mind | Third Eye Chakra
Your thoughts are not facts, but your nervous system responds to them as if they are. This session we surface the limiting beliefs keeping you stuck in survival mode and begin to rewire them into something that actually serves you.
💜 Module 7 - Spiritual | Crown Chakra Regulation is not just a nervous system practice, it is a coming home to yourself. This session we turn inward, deepen your trust in your own intuition, and connect to something greater than the daily chaos of caring for others.
Regulation builds from the ground up.
Layer by layer.
What Changes
You’re still running late.
Your toddler needs the toilet.
You feel the surge rise.
But this time…
There’s space.
You exhale.
You kneel down.
Your voice stays steady.
Not perfect.
But different.
Shorter guilt.
Faster repair.
More steadiness.
Investment
$197NZD
Payment plans available.
8 weeks of 1:1 email support.
A ripple effect of impact.
Lifetime Access
This Is Your Moment
You can keep trying to manage your reactions.
Or you can train your nervous system to feel safe enough to lead from calm.
You don’t need to become someone new.
The calm version of you isn’t missing.
She’s just tired.
If you’re done living in reaction
and ready to build safety into your body -
now is the time to dig deeper.
Kia Ora, I’m Sarah Findlay...
I am a former early childhood teacher, now a trauma responsive nervous system and identity recalibration coach for parents, caregivers, and ece teachers.
I’m also a mother of three under 4 yrs old, and someone who lived the unraveling:
Burnout.
Addiction.
CPTSD.
Perfectionism.
Losing my career.
Losing myself.
What brought me back wasn’t another self-development surface level course (or 10 lol). It was nervous system safety.
Not all at once.
Layer by layer.
From the root to the crown.
That’s what Calm at the Core is built from.
This isn’t theory.
It’s lived.
And I have walked back to safety, to show you the way.
More Testimonials
"Working with Sarah was pivotal in my healing journey. Her continuous support really allowed me to safely deepen my connection to self, my connection to the Divine and trust in the pathway unfolding for me. She provided tools that I continue to use daily. I am deeply grateful for Sarah and all she does! My highest recommendations is allowing her to support you on your journey."
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"Sarah is so knowledgeable and passionate about supporting clients to become the very best version of themselves. After finishing the coaching with Sarah I don't even feel like the same woman who walked into her space 10 weeks ago. Highly recommend to anyone who may feel like they need some guidance or change in their lives."
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"I am so thankful that Sarah has a wide range of knowledge, wisdom, and experience, along with the kindest of hearts, and that she is able to help people including me, to find harmony within, that extends externally. Not only that but Sarah has helped me balance my emotions using easy and simple techniques to maintain a happy healthy mindset."
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